Wednesday, 7 May 2014


Celebrating my Dad Mother!    
Here's a gift for just reading this
Every time I hear the word mother there is a flicker of tears in my eyes. This is not because I hate the term nor because I did not love my mother, but simply because I lost her in my early years. I must have been about seven or eight years old when she died. By age eleven or twelve I had also lost my grandmothers and grandfathers. Tough luck, I guess you could say. I was left with Dad for the greater part of my teen and young adult years.

This post, is in part a tribute to my father who mothered me, and who has also died since October, 2005, and, believe me, he did everything a mother, as well as a father should do.

I found myself contemplating on the term mothers’ day after having consulted my Calendar, which stated May 11, 2014, and thought, what the heck, tears or no tears, I am going to write something about this day. As usual, the research and curiosity buzzers inside me were pressed and the obvious questions jumped out: What really is mothers’ day? When did it start? Where was it originated?

 According to Wikipedia: Mother's Day is a celebration honoring mothers and motherhood, maternal bonds, and the influence of mothers in society. It is celebrated on various days in many parts of the world, most commonly in spring. (e.g., April–May in the northern hemisphere, October in Argentina, but northern hemisphere spring, May, in Australia). It complements similar celebrations honoring family members, such as Father's Day and Siblings Day.1

It appears as if mother’s day is a twentieth century phenomenon started in the United States by one Anna Jarvis who held a memorial for her mother in Grafton, West Virginia, in 1908.

In 1912, Anna Jarvis trademarked the phrases "second Sunday in May" and "Mother's Day", and created the Mother's Day International Association. She specifically noted that "Mother's" should "be a singular possessive, for each family to honor its mother, not a plural possessive commemorating all mothers of the world. This is also the spelling used by U.S. President Woodrow Wilson in his 1914 presidential proclamation, by the U.S. Congress in relevant bills, and by various U.S. presidents in their proclamations concerning Mother's Day. However, "Mothers' Day" (plural possessive) or "Mother’s Day" (plural non-possessive) are also sometimes seen.2

Jarvis was successful in her bid to make mother’s day a national holiday by 1914, but became very disgruntled with the way in which it was commercialized by the 1920s.
Eventually other countries adopted the Jarvis holiday but many countries changed the date to fit other celebrations honoring mothers.

In some countries the date was changed to a date that was significant to the majority religion, such as Virgin Mary Day in Catholic countries. Other countries selected a date with historical significance. For example, Bolivia's Mother's Day is the date of a battle in which women participated.

In this (the mother’s day tradition), each person gives a gift, card or remembrance towards their mothers, grandmothers, and/or maternal figure on mother’s day.3

So, there you have it! The tears have subsided somewhat, and I now cling desperately to my wife’s mother as the last living representation for my mother’s day celebration, but it is my dad who mothered me that I remember in a big way though, when I think of the term mother’s day. Love you dad!

Now, in the true spirit of the tradition, please go grab your “mom” a mother's day present before the day passes!  

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